Partner for Life

An agreement with a fellow classmate had made it possible for this post to be written (I hope you're reading this NUR AMALIN :P). It'll be a lie if I said that the thought of having a life partner, or as people simply say it, a husband, had never crossed my mind. It has, mind you, and I won't be gasping in astonishment if a data were to suggest that every teenager had at least considered this topic once in their lifetime.

To be honest, I'm not a fan in discussing this particular topic, probably due to the fact that I wasn't grown up in an environment that encourages me to do so. It is, unsurprisingly, after I became a member of QuadP that I realised how important it is for adolescents like us to at least think of this part of our future. As we all know, having a marriage is the Sunnah and I surely don't want to spend my senior years alone (if I were to live long enough)

For a start, I always had this chill running down my spine whenever people mention about "sweet" or "eww eww" stuff. You get what I mean. Not to mention I loath love stories (those ones centred plainly on love and how an initially I-despise-you relationship ended up as romance). But now I look at "love" at another objectivity: to "dirikan masjid" as they say.

It was never in my intention to describe the characteristics of my dream partner because if I were to do that, I'd be rambling all day long about worthless stuff. I know prince charming only exists in fairy tales. Can't always get what you wish for right? Waking up is the only way that we can escape from dreamland. So I just want to point out one characteristic of the guy that I'd like to have as a life partner. A pious guy who is very close to Allah and can lead his family to the right path.

Different paths

I'm certain that most girls out there are searching for decent, pious guys, and it goes the same vice versa. In my opinion, a guy who is close to Allah could keep his family from getting astray. He'd never let his wife, daughters or sons to be in maksiat. He'll make sure that he's family is protected from syirik. I'm not an expert in this topic, but what I can say a pious man would undoubtedly know what to do to ensure that he and his family could reach jannah.

As for looks, it doesn't matter really. Who cares if he's the hottest guy on the planet. Love is a blessing from Allah and if a couple is blessed with love, both will perceive each other's beauty. "Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder". It doesn't matter how everybody else looks at him. My perception is important. Mine and mine only.

Marriage of my dreams? I just want a modest akad nikah and probably a bit of a feast (kenduri). It really puzzles me, sorry to say, as I watch people having grand weddings and wasting their money on unnecessary events. I'm not the type who likes to have all eyes on me as I sit next to my already-wed husband in some kind of princessy dress. Makes me feel insecure.

I've listened to some debates about the perfect wedding proposal. I guess the sweetest version that I could think of is when a guy asks for your dad's phone number and ask for a hand in marriage from the wali. It's proper, by the way. Honeymoon is a big issue too. Why spend half a million on a one-day celebration that would probably be forgotten on the next day when you can use that much money for a week-long trip overseas? Or perform umrah, maybe? Weeee...

I want to have kids (of course). And I don't want any of them to feel lonely like I do when there's nobody to play with at home. I, together with my future husband InsyaAllah, would like our children to be raised with Islam as their guide. To be told of the stories of Prophet Muhammad. To be established the love towards Islam. To get to know Allah and love Him. To be children who'll one day be able to contribute to their family, society, country and religion. Already I'm putting so much pressure on my uncertain future, but everybody has their plans right?

Found this cute photo on the internet

I haven't found anyone. Not that I need to at this period of time. Our fate has been written by Allah since before time, although there's nothing wrong with a bit of effort. We can dua that we'll meet the best guy for us. We might have those endless characteristics that we fantasise, but our choices may not always be right. Besides that, improving ourselves would also be a great option. 

 "it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know" [2:216]

"Evil words are for evil men, and evil men are [subjected] to evil words. And good words are for good men, and good men are [an object] of good words. Those [good people] are declared innocent of what the slanderers say. For them is forgiveness and noble provision."                                                                                                                                                               [24:26]

Cute + pink = double cuteness! :3

 Before I come to a conclusion, I'd like to add that there have been guys that I've met that I really admire, as in look up to. However, that doesn't necessarily mean that I like him nor have the intention of "getting the relationship to the next level". I'll just stick to the fact that when the time has come, the time has come. We'll just have to put our faith in Allah, that if it's meant to be, it's meant to be.

Ma famille